If It’s Broke, Fix It! Take Control of Your Life Dearest thoughtful reader Let’s get straight to it shall we: Have you ever felt like you’re living in a loop, circling the same tired problems, hoping that somehow – without warning or effort – they’ll miraculously untangle themselves? Or have you ever found yourself lying…
Why I Quit Defending Myself at Every Turn My dear thoughtful reader I used to think that if I could just explain myself better, people would finally understand me. If I could articulate every nuance of my intentions, justify every choice, offer my receipts, or anticipate every potential misinterpretation, I’d finally feel safe, seen, validated,…
Asking for Help: The Audacity of Vulnerability Dearest thoughtful reader Today as I often do, I’m going to start with a vulnerable confession: for years I chose not to be “good” at asking for help. You see, I used to think asking for help was something other people did. You know, the ones who hadn’t…
If They Really Knew Me, They Wouldn’t Like Me My dear thoughtful reader I’m curious. Do you ever walk into a room and instantly start running a mental spreadsheet: How much of me can I show before they bolt?Is my laugh too loud?Did I just say the wrong thing?If they really knew me… would they…
Part 2 Three Letters That Will Change Your Life Part 2 Dear thoughtful reader ILast week, we began unpacking the first of our three letters and discovered that S.H.E. isn’t a destination. S.H.E. isn’t perfect or a woman who has life all figured out. She’s the woman who keeps choosing to become. We also discovered…
Quit Being the Nice Girl: On Being Assertive Without Being a Bitch My dearest thoughtful reader I don’t know exactly when it started. Maybe it was the first time you said “yes” when you really meant “no.” Or when you apologised for taking up space—literally—or for speaking too loudly, too long, too boldly. Maybe it…
“If Only” is a Liar (and It’s Stealing Your Life) My dear thoughtful reader There’s a phrase that I have come to despise with all my heart because even though it sounds innocent, it is secretly out here ruining lives. What’s worse is that it’s not a drawn-out complicated statement either. Not at all, it’s…