It’s Not Always About YOU! Dear thoughtful reader We all have that one friend, coworker, or even family member who – you know – manages to somehow turn any comment, every story, any moment relate and revolve around them. You tell them about your rough day, and suddenly, they’re sharing how their day was even…
Why I Quit Defending Myself at Every Turn My dear thoughtful reader I used to think that if I could just explain myself better, people would finally understand me. If I could articulate every nuance of my intentions, justify every choice, offer my receipts, or anticipate every potential misinterpretation, I’d finally feel safe, seen, validated,…
The High Cost of Always Needing to Be Right: A Friendly Guide to Letting Go Dear thoughtful reader Have you ever been in a conversation with someone where they just had to prove their point? Maybe it was a debate with a friend, a disagreement with a partner, or a discussion at work where this…
Three Letters That Will Change Your Life Part 1 My dear thoughtful reader Every week I write you a letter. Well today, I’d like to give you three. Three actual letters, I mean. Not the kind delivered by the postman – do postmen even exist anymore? Anyways, I digress, back to the topic, three letters…
When Everyone Else Seems Ahead (You’re Falling Behind) My Dearest Struggling Thoughtful Reader, Let’s get real for a second, shall we? No, not nod-your-head-and-smile real. Not highlight-reel real. I mean gut-wrenchingly, soul-baringly, honest-to-God real. Have you ever looked around at everybody else’s lives and thought… “S#@T! Am I the only one who hasn’t figured it…
How Your Insecurities Are Wrecking Your Relationships (And What You Can Do About It) Dear gentlest reader This letter is going to feel like a hug and a bit of an unexpected kick up the derriere—because I wish someone had told me sooner how much my insecurities were quietly or not so quietly sabotaging my…